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Posted on September 10, 2009 - by Dee

Life is Messy!

You know, if there is anything that I have learned, and it is that the life that you dreamed of…the life that you had tied in a pretty red bow…if as big a myth as a freakin’ unicorn. Plain and simple, life is very messy.

Take me for instance, I just knew that I would have the perfect marriage, kids that would be obedient, and a career to die for. However, it hasn’t quite happened that way. For one, marriage is hard, hard work, and you have issues from time to time that test the strengh of your relationship. When you’re in that moment, it’s hard to see your way back to the point where you guys are laughing about something random. At times, it feels like you’ll never laugh again.

As for the kids, anything short of pre-programmed robots for offspring, will be challenging. I mean, as much as I love my girls, I guess obedience is not a hereditary trait that I slipped into their DNA. The clincher is that they are great for other people like the grandparents and let me say, “something else” for me. Man, take a look at family photos sometime, and if you could get the backstory on them getting to those shoots–I think we’d all be surprised.

Now the “c” word–CAREER. For me, this concept has been as elusive as my kids running when it’s bath time–you know not quit able to grasp it. I just thought that by now, I would be on my second cover of Time, Vogue, or Oprah’s magazine. Hell, I would take “Mad Magazine” at this point. Why can’t I figure this out?

I know, I know, “cry me a river,” right?!

I’ll get there and my time is coming, but man, I’m just sayin’ can it be soon? I’m done with the harsh realities of life…it’s time for some dreams to come true…pronto!

Until next time…Peace!

Posted on September 2, 2009 - by Dee

The Fork in the Road: Yep, I’m here again!

Girlfriend, it is sooo not easy approaching a fork in a road; and let me tell you, I am the “queen” of that situation. Oh how I wish I could zoom ahead 5 years into the future to see what I decided to do with the rest of my life and how well it actually panned out.

Believe me, the desire to succeed is there, the ambition has always been there; but the execution has been totally lacking. I am a person with no contacts and no hook-ups to speak of, but I still believe that I can become a great success. Not to be a “downer”, but it is what it is.

Is it the hard and softball situations that keep hitting me in the face that get me, or is it because I am a huge procrastinator? Maybe what I want to do, is not what I am supposed to do. Whatever it may be, at some point I have to, as we all have to, get the hell over it and just do the damned thing. But how do you know when it is time to change courses and figure something else out? Huh?

The fork in the road is daunting as hell, and sometimes, I think it laughs at me a little because it knows that I probably won’t pick the right path. To that I say…screw you!!! It’s either go hard or go home!!!

So, here goes…I’ll continue to post my progress.

I just hope that I’ll have something good to report.

Until next time…Peace!

Posted on August 30, 2009 - by Shan

Love What You Do

“Love What You Do” – a sign with a white background and fun, colorful letters hanging on my office wall. My former mentor, colleague, office-mate and friend left it behind as she changed her course in loving what she does. Perhaps, a reminder for me in either continuing on in my current career that has become a significant part of my life and helping shape how I view the world or in pushing me to pursue something even greater. I see the sign everyday (at least Monday through Friday) when I walk in my office, most times consciously. It’s amazing how we get used to something and then forget it’s even there. But recently, there has been an unconsciousness hovering around me, reminding me at various moments in my day to Love What You Do. I see it in the words of others. “I love my job!” - a status update on Facebook. Watching a gray-haired couple walking by, talking and smiling at each other while holding hands.  A dad coaching his son’s football team with excitement and pride reflected in each other’s eyes. Random words on the radio, in an e-mail, in the voice of a daughter talking about animals. ”Love What You Do” – a simple, yet multidimensional concept that can be related to one, two or every aspect of your life.  When you love what you do, you don’t need an alarm clock to wake you up in the morning. You don’t care what hours or days you have to work because “work” is only an adjective used to describe the good-feeling-place where you spend your day. Loving What You Do makes you smile, be kind to others, have a do-your-best attitude – in every aspect of your life - at work, at home, with your spouse, your kids, your family, your team.  When you Love What You Do, you feel better which makes the people around you feel better which radiates out and touches people you don’t even know. So take a moment to sit back and think about where you are and ask yourself Do You Love What You Do? I think a small percentage would say Yes. But if you’re like many of us, the answer is No. And that’s okay. Because at this very moment, we can choose to turn things around. We can only start where we are at. There is always something, no matter how small, that we can find to Love in the midst of Not Loving. And if we put our focus on that small thing, another small Love will appear. And if we continue to focus, we will find ourselves finding more things to Love on our way to Loving What We Do. And eventually, you will feel better and then the world will be better because more of us Love What We Do. So take the only moment you have, which is NOW, and start toLove What You Do. It may lead you to a whole new place or open up the place you are at. Either way it doesn’t matter! Let me know how it goes!!!

Posted on August 28, 2009 - by Dee

Oh Lord, These Kid Movies !!!

Now, when I was a kid, there were movies like “Herbie the Love Bug,” “The Bad News Bears” and “Escape to Witch Mountain” that we saw at the movie theatres. I had no idea the pain that my mom experienced to get through most of these movies. The big difference, however, is that kid movies were not out just about every week like they are now. With the advent of computer-generated animation, not to mention the star-studded voices that bring the characters to life, there is always something that I should be taking my girls to see.

Oh, did I forget the never-ending marketing for the movie like character bed sets, bookbags, and Happy Meal toys? No wonder I try, most times unsuccessfully, to get that to be my husband’s job like mowing the lawn or washing the car—you know the stuff they do that is seasonal and definitely not everyday. Yeah, take the kids to one of their movies. That can be his thing like mine is to go to PTA meetings, or be on some other committee.

Can I also talk about these “live” shows…let me just say that I cannot wait for them to grow out of this stage. One note to the producers of these shows—-it is not, and I repeat, not necessary to have an intermission. Just keep going, sell me a balloon and water bottle after the show—please.

I love being with my children, but man, the price you pay for “quality time” can get pretty darn steep.

Can I get an Amen?!

Until next time…Peace!

Posted on August 21, 2009 - by Dee

My Babies are Going to Kindergarten!!!

OK, OK, I knew this day would come. My twin girls will be starting kindergarten, and I must say I am trippin’ a little. First of all, I’ll have to get them to school on time–a major feat–just ask anyone at their pre-school. Let me just say, “Perfect Attendance” is an award that they just may never get.

Next, they put them in separate classes–can you say “separation anxiety?!” It’s mainly me because so far, they’re taking it like champs. I guess we all need a break from each other, huh? I just hope their teachers are on the same level. Remember when we were in school and you had three teachers for the same grade? One teacher was mean, one was nice, and the other really indifferent.
Well, in this case…”Separate but equal” is a principal that this family will be subscribing to.

My visibility and participation at school will be monitored and noted. I’ll take my shift at the concession stand during the games, be the first to arrive at Parent-Teacher conferences, be the President of the Booster Club, and raise money with fundraisers that reward $1,000 in candy sales with a $50 pizza party.

I guess it’s “big girl time” for all of us. Time to suit up and get in the game.

There will be challenges for all of us, but please make no mistake…mama’s crazy, so “don’t start none, won’t be none.”

My, they grow up so fast!

Until next time…Peace